Jump to content


Where classical school and homeschool teachers talk.



Discussion Starts Here.

For the Children's Sake.

Learn from Others.

Add Your Voice to the Conversation.

Glad You Are Here.

Give Us Your Question.

Shannon Iverson

Methods of teaching and time

Recommended Posts

I admit, I often find myself in the dispense method of teaching my four children. I strongly believe in Socratic discussion and the master/apprentice model, but how do you balance time and effective teaching? In the subjects we do combine, it often becomes a competition of chatter and thought (especially between three boys.) Suggestions?

How do we avoid simply dispensing ideas to 'get things done', while maintaining time with each student to have a meaningful conversation?


  • Like 1

Share this post

Link to post
Share on other sites

How old are your children?  I ask because I think that with younger children it's especially important to teach them *how* to participate in a good discussion before many good  discussions can be had.  There are several ways you can teach your kids to participate in a discussion, but how you approach it would depend upon their ages, right?  A 12 year old will handle it differently from the 7 year old.  :)


Share this post

Link to post
Share on other sites

Hi Shannon!  

Those ages can be quite a spread when you're having a discussion!  :) 

For the little two, could you start with teaching them *how* to have a discussion before you hope to have actual good discussions with them?  Do you do morning time with your kids together? That would be a great time to practice your discussions. Pick something really simple to discuss that the 5 and 7 year olds would have a lot to talk about. Think about the behaviors they're displaying, and which ones need to change (talking over others, interrupting, chiming in with something completely irrelevant, silliness, etc.). Remind them of your expectations and focus on one or two changes at a time.  Let the older kids know what you're doing and what the goal is, and recruit them as role models.

It might help to have a tangible, physical reminder of whose turn it is to speak.  Perhaps some variation of the "talking stick" to start out? A ball to (gently) toss to the next person to speak?  You could also give them a sentence starter to help guide them.  When they are responding to someone they have to use one of your sentence starters like, "I agree with Johnny because...." or "I disagree with Johnny because..."  That gives them some boundaries.  Once you feel like they have a grasp of the boundaries and expectation, you could move them toward most substantive discussions.

With the older kids, I'd try to have discussions just with them; make it a little more grownup.  While the younger two are playing somewhere else or resting, gather the older two somewhere quiet.  I have boys, and I always try to have a food item available to help encourage the idea of gathering somewhere, having good food, and talking.  Usually it's cocoa and cookies.  :)  Maybe have some soft music in the background?  ("Epic soundtracks" is a great Pandora station for boys!  :D )  If you're having them help the littles practice discussing at another time, they'll know your expectations and you can hopefully have a more productive discussion with them.

I agree that with essentially 4 grade levels you can't have every subject he a Socratic discussion, or you'd never get anything accomplished.  But maybe start with one that you do in pairs or together and then sprinkle others in over time?


Share this post

Link to post
Share on other sites

Having discussions at the dinner table - starting with you and your husband - you would talk with him before hand to "strategize" how you two will lead this "poetic knowledge" discussion of his day, or your day, or some other topic - and the children have to listen but not interrupt. You would randomly call on one of them to comment in on something you are saying, but not go hog wild. The same could be done with one of your older sons. Teaching children to take turns while talking is a valuable skill. Learning when is an appropriate place to add to a conversation and when it is interrupting is good. 

Using their names to indicate when one can talk and the rest cannot could be useful. "If I don't call your name, then it's your turn to listen." Asking them direct questions and having a period where no one is allowed to talk unless they are asked a question can be a drill used while reading or discussing science, math, history, what Sunday school was about, or the sermon/homily. 

Share this post

Link to post
Share on other sites

Join the conversation

You can post now and register later. If you have an account, sign in now to post with your account.

Reply to this topic...

×   Pasted as rich text.   Paste as plain text instead

  Only 75 emoji are allowed.

×   Your link has been automatically embedded.   Display as a link instead

×   Your previous content has been restored.   Clear editor

×   You cannot paste images directly. Upload or insert images from URL.

  • Create New...